Insecurity can make us manipulative. Like cornered animals, we turn vicious, plotting the downfall of others, preventing good things from happening to them, spreading tales about them, the whole department of dirty tricks. Most, perhaps all of the acts we are most ashamed of have sprung out of insecurity. Maybe, you didn’t introduce your boyfriend to your best friend because you were afraid he would like her better. Maybe, you stopped talking to your neighbor when she up-scaled her lifestyle. Maybe, you came in the way of your own children’s growth and independence because you didn’t want to lose control over them.
We each have our private list of terrible acts. Cringing? Don’t. We’re all in it together. It is very important to know that it isn’t us doing these awful things. It’s insecurity. That’s absolutely true. Never get identified with however you show up when insecurity is raging within you. It’s like being possessed by a strange spirit who makes us do thing we hate. You must have encountered people in your life who were perfectly well-adjusted until something happened to trigger their latent insecurity. Suddenly, they are different, high strung, irritable, grasping, grudging others their happiness. It’s almost as if they’ve undergone a personality change. And so they have.